Oprah did a show recently on how to meet a man if you’re over 35. Fascinating. The number one thing mentioned was women, if you want to meet a man, never go out of the house without dressing up and looking hot. Short skirt would be nice, and a little make-up, even if you’re just running out to get a newspaper or a cup of coffee. The women balked, of course. Why should I get dressed up if I’m just going to run out and do an errand. That’s not realistic. But the guys replied that as a general rule, they are extremely visual. That doesn’t mean that they’ll expect you to dress up every time they see you. It means, if you want to meet a man, and you’re just running to the store for some bread, why not do double duty… the errand and the opportunity to meet Mr. Right? If you want to make every trip out of the house an opportunity to meet a man, take the extra time to put yourself together before you go out. Okay, I can buy that. Maybe not a mini skirt and make up, but not tattered sweats and bags under your eyes, either. My question is: what about the guys? Why don’t they take a minute to put themselves together before stepping out their front door. Why the double standard? We can appreciate the beauty of a well put together man every bit as much as they can appreciate us. True, many women feel they can fix their guy once they’ve caught him, but what about those of us that would rather he already have this skill? Why can’t we expect the same visual candy as the guys who want us to be dressed to kill?
Next, men want women to give them some indication that we’re interested in them. This, according to the men, was done all through the eyes. Men say they can tell with a single glance if we’re interested and they’ll follow up on that glance IF THEY’RE INTERESTED. In other words, if you’ve caught a man’s eye, he will make the next move. If he doesn’t, he’s not interested. No need to make another advance. Men, like women, do not want to risk rejection. Show the man you would like to talk, and he’ll follow your lead.
Another interesting point, go where the men are (golf course driving range, hardware store) and ask for help. Men do not mind being interrupted. In fact, they like it, assuming of course that they are available. (Check for a ring.) Men like the chance to interact with a woman without that fear of rejection. Important: do not talk on the cell phone while you are out by yourself and wanting to meet a man. They will not risk interrupting your phone conversation to talk to you. Many women talk on the phone while out alone so they don’t appear to be desperate or obvious. Do not do this. Think about it. Would you interrupt a man talking on his cell phone to ask him to help you swing a golf club? Another hint, if trying to meet a man at the local Home Depot, do not hang around the paint section with all the other women. Go to the lumber section, or the section with with the rows and rows of screws. Much easier to find a man and ask a question…
Bottom line, women must be willing to put themselves out and not wait for Mr. Right to approach them. Men fear rejection just as much as we do. Start with the eyes…..show your interest. If you’re brave enough to take another step, ask for their assistance. They assure us they’ll do the rest.